The Princess Boy

4 January 2011 at 2:20 pm (#Kanyeshrug, Family, Life, WTF!?) (, , , , , , , , , )


As a parent, here are my thoughts.

This would be tough for any mom or dad to deal with initially. It’s not the social norm, it’s odd, its strange BUT when you love your children, you DO NOT stifle them. You can’t stifle a child’s growth and creativity and happiness for YOUR OWN concerns. That is doing way more harm then just letting them be to do what makes them smile. A child will learn early on that mommy and daddy are disappointed in them for a choice they made. Wearing a dress isn’t harming ANYONE, least of all you. You may not LIKE it but what harm is it REALLY doing? In a couple of years he may grow out of it entirely and it’s all been a phase. No harm no foul but if you stifle that, the ramifications of doing so will NOT go away in 2 years but will remain for life. If your son is wearing dresses and you are encouraging it and he ends up coming out as gay later in life, then it wasn’t because you encouraged him to wear these dresses but because he was BORN gay and knew that if you accepted that, you will accept him. Boys play with Barbies and dolls all the time, especially if they have sisters. They want to be included and do things they see other children doing -PERIOD.

My opinion is that you are born gay and not CHOOSING a lifestyle that’s picked apart, judged, and ostracized by society. Who would choose that? Besides, I don’t remember ever choosing to be straight, so …. but this is another blog in and of itself.

At the end of the day, let a child blossom and grow and explore and discover. Don’t put YOUR ADULT outlook on life on a child’s outlook on life. YOUR life experiences differ greatly from a child’s and to put that onto them isn’t fair. You can SAY its just you protecting them but no, you are being selfish and doing what YOU want to do. Protecting them is letting them be who they are and sheltering them from OTHERS that may not agree. A child needs refuge and respite within their family. Outsiders may try to bring them down or make them feel less than who they are but as PARENTS its our job to protect them. THAT is protection. It’s very easy for people who don’t have children come out and say what they would do in a situation like this, and you don’t discount their opinion … you can’t. It will show you what kind of parent they will become BUT at the same time it’s very difficult to understand wanting to sacrifice everything for your child because it’s a love like you’ve never felt before. And because of that, the opinion is just that – an opinion. Not reality.

My favourite part of the broadcast is when the mother speaks about studies showing that children get most excited and independent about the clothes they wear and pick out and how they are so proud when they can dress themselves. She is VERY right. That rebuttal to Meredith’s question was on point.

This world is becoming one of tolerance and acceptance but there’s still a long way to go.

What are your thoughts on this topic? I’d love to open up discussion.

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2 Comments

  1. Jessica said,

    My brother used to wear my tutus and play with my Barbies. We performed dance recitals for my parents and he would twirl around in my tutu thinking he was hot stuff. He would dress my Barbies and I would come home to Barbies wearing the most horrendous outfits. Seriously red high heals and a lavender dress with frizzy hair?! But he did it so he could hang out with me. I played with match box cars and his Ninja turtles. We built sandcastles and destroyed them together. We tied our bikes together with jump rope (kids do NOT try this at home) and went careening around. We were kids. We didn’t know about assigned gender roles. Much less gender. We just played. Because we were kids being kids.

    • Corprah Lanfrey said,

      Thank you for your comment, Jess!

      It’s true though …. little girls playing with trucks or video games or things typically stereotyped as BOY things don’t come under such attack. Kids need to be kids … society is forcing upon children ADULT views and mindsets. It’s just not right.

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