Casual Sex.

There’s not a DAMN thing wrong with casual sex in my eyes provided you take care of yourself and your partner and wrap it up. If you want to sleep around and have numerous partners that’s on you. I won’t judge you for it but at the same time, if you are sleeping around and there is no connection there, then don’t be surprised when you get called a hoe.

To ME, casual sex is sex without commitment. It’s NOT a one night stand. It’s NOT a quickie with some guy you spoke to a couple times and never saw again. Some people would refer to a casual sex partner as a “fuck buddy” and that’s cool. Language tends to be interpreted many different ways. I just feel casual sex ultimately mean sex outside the constraints of a monogamous relationship. Just my opinion.

I’ve had casual sex before. I make no apologies for it. But, just because I’ve had casual sex, it doesn’t mean my partner wasn’t someone I cared about or had no connection with. It’s important that no matter who you sleep with, that there is some kind of attraction, connection and passion. Not only does it make the sex better and more enjoyable but it MAY just make you feel more satisfied. If you are sleeping with any and everyone without consequence aren’t you left feeling empty, unwanted, used?

All this being said, I just feel that casual sex is no longer for me. I’ve been there, done that but I want more out of life these days. I’ve been abstinent for a good while now and I’m tempted every DAY of my life but its by choice I choose to say no to the peen. I choose to wait for someone I WANT to be with in more than just one way, not because I’m horny and they’re there.

After a certain age you realize there is more to sex than that, don’t you? Sex is fun, sex is natural, sex feels good but sex is also overrated … it really is …. unless it’s with someone you care about. I believe this to be true.

Oh What A Tangled Web We Weave.

Imagine if I knew you liked me but you believed I liked you and when we talked about who likes who it turns out she likes you, too?

Lil Wayne Cake FAIL!

I’m laughing SO hard right now. The cake is ridiculously fucked up.

I tip my hat off to Alec Baldwin & Kim Basinger for providing their 14 year-old daughter Ireland with this lovely cake.

Looks good doesn’t it? What’s better than a slice of Wayne’s mouth bling or perhaps his black licorice dreds? Personally, I want the forehead tattoo piece, tyvm. WEEZY!

What’s even funnier … this cake looks more like a Loc’d up Affion Crockett:

New Video: Britney Spears – “3″

Ms. Spears is BACK! I looooove her and she looks DAMN good in this video. It’s about time … the old Brit was just waiting to resurface. I believe its happened! Enjoy.

Stir Crazy …

What’s that condition when you’re stuck in the house for too long and you start to feel like you are going to turn bat shit crazy? I say stir crazy but I’m thinking of something else. It’s right on the tip of my tongue but …. I can’t figure it out for the life of me.

What did I do today? Absolutely nothing …

The lil one is sick with the flu so we’re stuck in the house ((( OH MY GOSH .. IT JUST HIT ME .. THE TERM IM LOOKING FOR IS CABIN FEVER ))) and between Family Channel, Disney movies, naps and countless snacks and the internet nothing has helped to cure this boredom. I just feel so …. sluggish. I’ve done laundry and cleaned my bathroom. I don’t want to cook more dinner when I still have enough curry chicken left over … if I cook more food something will go to waste and I’m not big on wasting meals.

I went to bed just after 2am this morning because I got it in my head that music auto-playing on the blog would be a good look. With WordPress not supporting flash I had to get creative on how I did it. The coding was all fucked up but eventually I got it working. WOO SAH!

I spoke to my boy briefly today. I told him he’s the worst because we start a thousand and one conversations but never actually finish them, so he called me up and we were on our way … then, about 20 minutes later, his line beeped and he had to call me back. BAH! He did it again! He’s the worst, I promise you.

An MSN smiley JUST appeared in the damn window where I’m typing. How fucked up is that?

I went IN on the trending topics on twitter a couple hours ago. #ShesNotThatIntoYou and I were friends for about an hour or so. Some were situations I experienced personally and others were from my twisted mind and some were just common sense. My personal favourite that garnered the most responses:

Technically if a chick does that its not so much that shes not into you but that shes a dirty whore that is out to COMPLETELY disrespect you.

What else?

OH! I have an interview tomorrow morning and it sounds promising. I’m glad I didn’t take the other offer. I mean, yes I need a job but the cons to taking it were outweighing the pros and I know more opportunities will come my way; I just need to remain positive and patient. I interview extremely well and I’m strong. I nail every one I get and very rarely am I NOT offered the position. I just need to keep my wits about me and choose the best fit. It’s a career I’m looking for now. I didn’t work my ass off in school to graduate and then settle.  Wish me luck.

Random closing: Do you look behind you and / or around you before you pick out your wedgie? I ALWAYS do. And I do that bow-legged walk to get it out if I’m walking down a heavily trafficked street. I kinda care what motorists think about me digging underwear out of my ass. Is that bad? Should I give a damn at all? Oh well.

I’m Disappointed.

Mariah’s album had promising snippets leaked before it dropped but when I heard the full album …. disappointment.

Amerie’s album leaked today and you guys KNOW how much I love her but again … disappointment. I may need to listen to In Love & War a few more times but I don’t know. I know all artists grow and change but the production on this album is severely lacking the energy and flyness of her last two LP’s. ‘Tis a shame.

The only R&B album that’s dropped recently that I can’t get enough of is Trey Songz’s “Ready” … I can listen to it from beginning to end – no skips. A great, great album. I believe 2010 will be Trey’s year.

I’m gonna need for these albums that are being released to come harder because all I’m getting are a bunch of dope singles and like 2-3 ill tracks on average of a 14/15 song LP.  I’m not buying a $20 CD when I can’t even listen to half the tracks. Shit’s out of control. Stop rushing through your projects and take time to build a solid album.

Please.

Bravo.

“Y’all can be whatever you want…just not my downfall” © Larry Perrin

Don Von Jovi: Weekly Future Exclusive Series 5

Fifth installment from DVJ’s weekly series entitled “Share My Mind”. Enjoy.

Free Download Available Here

Mary J. Blige – I Can See In Color

Mary J. Blige has released a single slated to be featured on the soundtrack for the movie Precious (which I’m anxiously awaiting) and its SO powerful. Lyrically strong and deeply moving, this song truly captures the essence of the many different themes and emotions of the story.  I love me some MJB!

Listen & Download Here.

Jammin’

YES, Michael. I love the way this joint comes in. Makes you just wanna get UP and boogie.